For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.
On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.
Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!
No, don’t ever mutilate your kid for bullshit reasons. Cutting his penis just so that he can fit it in with others is nonsense.
This is your opportunity to discontinue a barbaric practice that was done to you for stupid reasons.
The only thing that is making this a difficult ethical choice for you is the culture you were brought up in. If you were born in most other places, this issue wouldn’t even provoke serious thought in your brain, just astonishment, laughter, and ridicule for anyone who practiced it.
This isn’t a hard choice. Do the right thing.
To all those ignoring your question and trying to bully you. Fuck off. I commend you for trying to get more information on a divisive topic. Congrats on your son!
Water off a duck’s back, but thank you!
I also think circumcision is wrong. My friend who is a nurse advocates for it because she has uncircumcised dementia patients who don’t adequately clean their smegma but like, come on, you’re the nurse and it’s your job to take care of them
I got circumcised in my twenties due to some scarring after I got a fungus or something from my partner. My feedback: do not recommend, absolutely no benefit. On the other hand besides recovery and initial sensitivity, there’s no major drawbacks (besides masturbation now requiring lubricant).
I should mention that I’m from EU and there’s no social factor here.
I’ll trade fore some skin
I’m genuinely upset about not getting a say in the matter.
When a person gets circumcised they lose a ton of sensitivity and feeling from their dick, and it permanently degrades the quality of any sexual gratification they will have in their life.
And that’s not even touching on how fucked up it is to mutilate a child’s genitals for a religon that they can’t even consent to.
I’m 42 and uncircumcised, born and raised in America. My entire life the total sum of what it’s amounted to from locker rooms to relationships is pretty close to “huh, ok then”. I can’t promise it will be the same for your son but it’s been a total non-issue in my life.
You could also consider chin implants to give your son a strong chin. A strong chin is definitely going to have a positive impact in his life later on, and recovery will be faster and less painful as a child. Another thing to consider would be earlobe separation if his earlobes are joined. This will make sure he looks more normal and won’t be made fun of in school. If you are asian you should definitely also consider eyelid surgery since it can reduce problems with vision and lead to healthier eyes
Or you could avoid cosmetic procedures on non-consenting children entirely.
Particularly one that is not solely cosmetic and will have a substantial impact on his sexual experience as an adult. That skin is meant to be there, it protects the sensitive parts of the penis from over stimulation when not erect. This constant stimulation on the head of the penis from clothing makes it less sensitive over time. And the skin being removed, itself, has sensitive nerve endings. Removing this skin means that circumcised men simply do not experience that same level of sensation from sex as they would have otherwise.
Beyond that. There are risks as well such as too much skin being removed causing the skin to become stretched with an election, which can be painful and a possible source of sores and infection.
There is no good reason for it except. In the US, at least, it stems from weird prudish attempts stop boys from mistreating and has since then just become a norm that isn’t questioned. Well question it. Forget it is the “normal” thing for a second. Would you cut off your daughter’s labia to make it easier to keep clean or not breed bacteria or pass on STD’s or whatever other justification they have for circumcision? Are there any other parts of your newborn you want to permanently remove? To flay off? No? Then dont do it to your son’s penis.
We didn’t circumcise our son. It’s a barbaric practice and you shouldn’t do it. There’s absolutely no good reason to mutilate a child’s genitals, and it’s abhorrent that it’s so commonly practiced.
Don’t. I wasn’t until my early twenties, due to failing all other options to treat the worst case of phimosis my urologist had ever seen. It was fine at first, but you lose sensitivity over time. Now I’m struggling to get that back and it’s really difficult.
Tbh I love my foreakin, it’s fun to play with and overall just enhances the penis having experience. 10/10 would recommend
I cant imagine my childhood baths without that little guy to play with. Peekaboo!
Okay, memory unlocked. Totally forgot I did that.
American and uncircumcised here. Definitely don’t do it. The only reason it should ever be done is a case of phimosis so bad it can’t be fixed any other way.
No, never. Circumcision is weird, disturbing, and imo abusive since there’s no consent to having part of your body removed.
My 2¢: don’t
I was circumcised at birth by my parents, and it’s a source of frustration I have with them. Since it’s irreversible, there’s nothing I can do about it though.
Personally, I think circumcised penises look unnatural and weird.
I’m American and not circumcised, my wife and I chose not to circumcise our son because there really isn’t anything to gain from it. In my mind it’s no different than the removal of the hood from around a womans clitoris, it would cause a lot of pain and discomfort until the area is more “desensitized” by constant overstimulation. As someone that has only ever had a penis, and never a circumcised one, it’s all just speculation on my part.
