For my birthday, my spouse got me a nicer newer expensive version of a thing I already have. The one I have is older and dented but works just fine. I use it weekly. I never complain about it. I’ve never asked for a newer one. The one I have was given to me by my mother in law, whom I adore. It’s sentimental.
I don’t like new things. When they got me a 3d printer, it was the cheapest one and it was a kit and I had to build myself. I loved it. It’s perfect for me. I regularly buy things used or get things from Buy Nothing groups. I much prefer to repair old things in many ways. My car has over 100k miles. The one before did too. I don’t like new things.
We got into a huge argument because I want to return it. They are so upset with me that they left the house to calm down. Why am I the bad person? Why are they mad at me? I have a very clear tendency for old broken used things. Why am I obligated to like this new thing?
We literally established a rule early in our marriage. I’m not allowed to gift nerdy t shirts. They don’t like them. I love them. I thought they would like them but they do not. So they asked me to stop. This feels the same. I do not like new things. Why am I the bad guy for wanting to return the newer version of the thing I already have?
This story is specifically non-gendered but people keep assuming that OP is male and partner is female.
That’s an important observation then isn’t it?
Fixing things broken things. Not wanting or appreciating things just because they are new. Nerdy T-shirts.
by assuming OP is male and that their partner is female, these things are seen in this community as undoubtedly male and the reaction undoubtedly female to those that assumed them.
Not sure how useful that observation is but it is an observation that is interesting to consider. I think so anyway. I’m sure not everyone agrees but I’m okay with that