Be it a personality quirk, something they’re wearing, or just the way they look. What makes them instantly hot?

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      Single straight man that works in child care. Let me tell you, single mom’s treat compassion like catnip. I keep them as far away from me outside of the school environment because me simply enjoying my job which naturally involves compassion is intoxicating to them.

      Hard pass for me dating a single mom but if you are having a hard time as a straight single man dating (only perspective I can give advice on) is to be genuine and compassionate. Instant attraction for 99% of women looking for partners.

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        Ive become a bit of a cynic in this area and I think the women seeing your passion for child care and being a nice guy… They know they can wrap you around their fingers and get a lot of benefit from you.

        Nice guys like yourself need to be very careful around todays women.

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          Toxic people mistake kindness for weakness and you just told on yourself, assuming everyone thinks the way you do.

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            Amazing analys doctor, but I think you may be seeing yourself in this rather than me…

            Im not very toxic, just very honest about what I see. Even when its unpopular.

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                  You told a guy who does childcare that women know they can wrap him round their finger, which iabsolutely is mistaking kindness for weakness, a very negative way of thinking, which is the toxic bit.

                  You don’t see at as toxic, but others do and you know it’s unpopular but you do it anyway, which is the no filter bit.

                  Unapologetic and unwilling to reconsider your position, you then start insulting people and being snarky, which is both toxic and lacking a filter.

                  I won’t be surprised if you double down and go more abusive and dismissive in response to what I’ve said because you clearly see no intrinsic merit whatsoever in kindness, so why would you hold back from the nastiest you could be?

                  Some of us learned social lessons at school (alongside academic content). Trump did neither, and thinks that playground bullying is strength. Be less Trumpy.

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                    I think he should be careful, yeah. Then after that, you read a whole lot more into that… :)

                    We dont know eachother, but its fun to see how you interpret these things and how you think im being toxic.

                    I dont think we are ever gonna agree on this topic, so… See you around Lemmy. :)