For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works
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    I’m Chinese-American, male, was born in mainland China, immigrated to the US. Family is not really religious, I didn’t get mutilated, and no I do not want to get mutilated.

    I was actually shocked when I learn that Americans, particularly Christians, do this shit. WTF. I also learned that some tribes around the world also do (or used to do) this. Felt sick just hearing that word.

    (Edit: To be clear, I mean no offense to my fellow Americans, I like this country for the most part, but forcing religion on kids and government corruption are probably two of the biggest thing I hate)

    Learning about “bloodletting”, and “witchhunt” made me hate previous eras.

    And when I learned about this thing called “lobotomy”, I just… idk kinda have a “new fear unlocked” moment for me…

    …humans are so fucked up.

    Please don’t mutilate your children. We’re supposed be advanced civillizations (I’m talking about humanity as a whole), how are being still doing outdated “bloodletting”-type of stuff?

    (Only exception would be if its medically necessary, and a doctor, without being influenced by religion, recommended it)

    • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      The only condition that I can think of that might require something close would be phimosis, essentially where the opening of the foreskin is too tight to pee properly and causes pain & burning. That can solved by cutting a small bit of skin without a full-on circumcision e: in most cases.