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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • There’s sort of a racist undertone to that kind of question that can put people on guard. I think you just need to be cognizant of that when you frame a question.

    The annoying version goes like this:

    White person: Where are you from?

    Brown person: Calgary

    White person, squinting at their skin: Ok, but where are you from?

    Brown person: Still Calgary.

    White person: visibly frustrated

    The annoying/racist part being that white people are assumed to originate from North America, but literally everyone else (including indigenous people, lol) are immigrants.

    The basic question is fine and I’ve never seen someone upset about being asked. But if you go into more detailed questions, keep in mind they might mispercieve what you’re asking.






  • It’s a terrible idea. Now you’re locked into a marriage and only starting to learn if you’re sexually compatible.

    Sex and the ability to live together are something I think need to be heavily practised before you even think of settling down permanently with someone.

    That said, if you are encountering pushy guys and telling the you’re waiting for marriage makes them back off, keep saying you’re waiting for marriage! But if things get far enough along that you think this is someone you want to be with “forever”, I’d revisit the boundary and see if it still make sense.