I guess, they might not be talking about individuals, but rather humanity as a whole. So, if a person rapes someone and this becomes publicly known, they will generally be shamed more than a woman having consensual sex (even though some rapists also get to be president, I guess).
But across the board, we have insults that every kid knows, which equate to “woman having (consensual) sex bad”, as well as gossip of the like, and even men being shamed for going out with a woman who has sex.
Compared to that, rape is rarely talked about…









Yeah, the complaint isn’t so much that we should be talking about rape all the time, but rather that we should stop shaming consensual sex.