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Cake day: July 9th, 2023

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  • As others have said, i don’t think there’s a single ‘real’ you behind some mask. But I do think that that being around some people or in some situations requires a lot of conscious effort to make things work. And on the other side, there are people who make us feel safe, or bring the best out of us, or just inspire us to have fun.

    When I’m around good friends and loved ones, i experience being free, liberated and my best and happiest self. But with everyone I’m still filtering, adapting and finding common ground with them. There’s stuff I’ll talk about with one friend that I wouldn’t mention to another. There’s jokes I might make in one place but not in another. But I don’t feel I’m masking, it just isn’t possible to be everything all the time.




  • If you’re just under your calorie target, you can add high calorie snacks or toppings to gain weight. Do you like nuts and seeds? Avacados? Olive oil? Cheese?

    You can buy or make lots of nice high fat nut snacks, roast them with your favourite spices if you like flavour or just a little salt if you prefer blander stuff. Snack on them throughout the day, and schedule times to have a portion of you’re not naturally a snacker. Sprinkle them over salads or rice bowls or whatever.

    Dip nice bread in olive oil and vinegar (with some zatar or other spice mixes if your like). Shallow fry things in olive oil - take slices of nutrious but calorie light vegetables, dip in a simple tempura batter of cornflour and water, then fry in olive oil. Crispy, fresh, delicious and lots of calories.

    So you eat desert? Start having nice fruit with heavy cream poured over the top. Use cream in sauces or add to mashed potatoes, vegetable gratins, etc.


  • All advice is good advice in a certain situation. “Trust your gut”/“be skeptical”, “be careful”/“go for it!” all of these can be good or terrible advice for different people at different times.

    The problem with “just do it” is it’s often literally the first thing that everyone tries. If I want to do my homework or cook a healthy meal, it’d be pretty weird if I started off by trying to not do it. So, often when it’s given as advice it feels very insulting, because it feels like your being literally told “have you considered doing the thing your trying to do?”

    It can be shorthand for much better advice - “don’t think about the consequences or costs, just focus on this moment and the first step you need to take” or whatever, but when delivered to someone who is literally struggling to do something it often adds nothing. “be careful” is good advice if someone’s carelessly approaching a dangerous, delicate task, but is shitty, vacuous advice if someone is already being very careful. So telling someone to “just do it” suggests you think that they weren’t previously attempting to do it, and that can give offense.


  • Thanks for the recipe! those waffles look quite similar to how I make them, but with buttermilk instead of normal milk.

    The chicken looks basically the same, I always do a buttermilk marinade. Obviously, friend chicken shouldn’t be dry it should be juicy and moist on the inside, and crispy on the outside. But the outer crispness is going to be a bit on the dry side, fatty and rich, but crunchy. The fact that people often have fried chicken with sauce or dip suggests it’s partially on the ‘dry’ end of spectrum.





  • That’s the thing, they don’t seem opposite enough to me. Iove salty sweet: salty caramel, bacon and cheddar on pancakes, I even dip chocolat chip cookies in hummus if I’m in the mood.

    The texture of the waffles (crisp on the outside, fluffy in the middle) seems not that far away from the chicken (crispy / crunchy on the outside, juicy in the middle). Both are fatty, but also dryish - obviously still moist, but dry in a crispy way. I could imagine having chicken curry on waffles, the saucy texture would be a nice contrast, but fried chicken…

    I guess I’ll just have to try it!