The future seems distant but the past is an instant. Your life seems like it went by in a flash.
While it is commonly shown in media, the “seeing everyone you love die” thing is generally reserved for immortals; but it can happen just getting old, too. You’ll likely die long after your grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles. And if you’re very unlucky, a lot of people younger than you as well.
You have to live with all the mistakes you’ve made for your entire life.
You aren’t getting any more teeth, so take care of the ones you have.
Stress produces cortisol. Cortisol reduces your empathy.
Like Casandra, knowing the future won’t make you happy or get people to listen to you.
Intelligence is setting your medication to automatically arrive when you run out. Wisdom is having it arrive a week before you run out.
Getting older is great! You’ve been around long enough to see how some things change while others stay the same. You start to care more about some things and less about the rest. Every year is my favorite age! Except for the year i lost my mom- that was worst thing about aging.
I’ll tell you the worst thing. Far worse than anyone else here can mention.
Time is constantly accelerating. When you are 5, the concept of a year is nearly an eternity. But your perception of time changes the older you get. Every year is shorter and shorter. Like you are on a constantly accelerating ship headed to the end of existence.
Keep doing new and novel things. It helps!
Humans adapt. We have abysmal bandwidth, so we have adapted. If anything is normal you don’t notice. You reserve bandwidth for the unexpected. You already know how to react and what to do/feel regarding daily life.
Break rhythm
Absolutely, you stop measuring the passage of time in days and years and start measuring it in experiences. When you’re young and everything is new it’s absolutely full. The 10th or hundredth time you’ve done something you handle it more easily but it also starts to seem like one ‘thing’.
Routine is the quickest way to looking back on life and feeling like it was the blink of an eye.
It really sucks having young people getting on your lawn.
mental pain is silently being replaced by physical pain
Spending so much time going to medical appointments.
Realizing how stupid you were when you were young.
The alternative is not realizing it. Realizing how stupid you used to be is how you grow.
And it never ends! When I was 25, I cringed at how I was when I was a teenager, but I was glad that at least I wasn’t like that anymore. Now that I’m in my 30s, I cringe at how I was when I was 25!
Later you’ll cringe at how you were in your thirties, forties and so on.
Exactly! 😫
I’m in my fifties and still occasionally cringe about things I did last week.
Still making rapid developments I see!
Lol that’s some pretty good self-awareness
For me it is more like, when you interact with young adults - you will able to see the difference between developing and actually developmed brain.
Tho not everyone reaches that point.
And yes. We all been that stupid.No one cringes at the thought of pooping their pants when they were 1 year old. It’s normal development at the time and soon you move on.
It’s the same at any age. It really should carry on like this if you continue to learn and grow through your life.
I’m still pretty young yet but one thing I’ve noticed with growing older is how less and less people your age seem to want to have fun. I don’t mean acting silly I mean finding time for joy in life and expressing that inner child. And yet they still make mistakes and deal with them like a kid would :/
It really feels like being with children acting like adults, who have forgotten how to be children. Just weird lol.
Yeah, one thing that’s held true throughout the years is that no one really leaves high school in their heads. I’m generalizing and referring to groups rather than individuals.
I would have to say sleep injuries and slowdown of body function.
I used to be a stomach sleeper and now my arms and hands go to sleep right away. If I lay on my side and don’t have a pillow, whichever knee is on top will sag and hurts like a bitch for a day and a half afterward.
Body-function-wise, I used to be able to eat whatever I wanted and stay in shape, that is increasingly less true. To keep in shape I spend more time being hungry and also having to make better decisions about food; you don’t just turn out a nice turd no matter what after about 33 and the alternatives are not great. Also alcohol is nowhere near as friendly as it used to be: if I have enough to drink that I get a buzz now, I will be sick the next day until like 2 in the afternoon.
You have to make life choices
The older you get the less time with friends and more time alone you have.
Which is why it’s a good skill to learn to be comfortable being alone. Had to learn this the hard way my first year of living on campus and not really gelling socially with my dormmates.
Being neurodivergent and coming from high school where most of my friendships were formed from convenience made forming new friendships complicated in college.
To some degree that’s true, but socializing is obligatory for brain health as you age
Yeah, you realize how many “friends” were just acquaintances and disappear.
Happy cake day!
Slowly, all the ppl whose wisdom and advice you’ve relied upon your entire life disappear or die. Go be with them before they’re gone.
