There’s a big difference between weird or questionable and criminal or abusive. Once someone is over 18—especially in their 20s—they have legal and moral agency. A 23-year-old dating a 40-year-old might raise eyebrows, but it’s not pedophilia, and calling it that cheapens what real victims go through.
While I think it’s weird that a 21-23-year-old dating an older person is really weird and inappropriate, I can’t compare an older adult dating a 23-year-old to a literal paedophile who goes after literal children; they aren’t the same. One person deserves to die, and the other doesn’t. The one dating a 23-year-old is a little weird and deserves a side eye; the other deserves to be locked up in prison forever.
Stop comparing this to a paedophile; one is very weird and gross (but the two people consenting have the right to choose to be weird and gross), the other truly evil.
Honestly, often for younger women it’s a romp with somone that knows what they’re doing.
The BEST lay of my 20 years old life - and i’m now married for 30+ years - was a 45 year old guy and we hit it off for a few glorious months of sex that was incredible. Man knew EXACTLY what he was doing and twisted me up into positions I couldn’t get into now if the husband and I tried…
The whole idea that it’s unnatural or weird is an odd one. I worked for a ton of men that worked like slaves though their youth to get successful and in their 40’s finally found young women to start beautiful families with.