

Many people don’t understand that porn is a super stimuli and our brains can be rewired to prefer it over normal sex. They will also argue it is propaganda to suggest such a thing - primarily because of the stigma around sex in a puritan society like ours.
I’m no saint here and don’t have an easy button for you. All I can suggest is go as long as you can without porn, then masturbate to your imagination. The longest streak I’ve managed to avoid porn did this. It may not work for you, but its worth a try.
I realized I had similar issues you mentioned and found online communities that don’t discriminate like rebootnation. Another good reminder that this can happen to anyone is the YouTube series by Terry fucking Crews: dirty little secret. If he had a problem with porn, anyone can.
I agree with you on this. Let it handle things you don’t care about and massage the output if necessary. Anything I do care about, I code myself, but will ask for help if I get stuck on something. I’m a novice programmer at best, 18/100 skill score.