Getting involved in activities has really helped me see there are a ton of folks out there still doing amazing and positive things.

I’ve started playing music with other people again and we’ve played 2 small public shows and some events where we just play for each other and everyone has been very supportive and we have a great time.

I also volunteered at the wild animal rescue this year, and it’s hard to choose if the people or animals are more amazing. Well, the people are much friendlier than the animals, but seeing the things they can come back from really can feel like witnessing miracles sometimes.

But that’s twice a week I get to hang out with people that help me grows, support me being a better and more rounded person, and we forget about outside troubles and put everything into a positive activity together. It’s been a major help this year.

As someone who doesn’t like being in the spotlight, switching from guitar to bass was very liberating

I’ve been learning piano the last 3 years, and now I’m either solo or at least more front and center and dealing with that has been as challenging as learning the instrument.

Still playing with others I feel is the most fun thing about any instrument. I think I learn more and learn faster doing it as a group, and it’s just a lot of fun making music with people.

I really like a lot of Megadeth’s Hidden Treasures since they don’t pop up randomly so much I’ve never gotten tired of them.

Angry Again, 99 Ways to Die, Breakpoint, Go to Hell, Diadems. All great stuff.

Once I found the plethora of good but >$10 pens, I had a lot of fun. The Precise V5 is one of my fav, and at the job I had where people would frequently need to borrow my pen, that received steady unprompted compliments.

If one is only going to have one pen, any model of Jetstream ballpoint is a nice cheap upgrade you won’t be too upset to lose.

I get a lot of enjoyment from having so many of you to share all I learn with.

It does still try to hit me with political ragebait, but I ignore all that.

Comments are total shit no matter the subject. Even reading the comments for the rescue I work at, at least half of it is people telling us we’re the worst people on Earth. 🙄

I very valid question with a very valid answer.

I’m sure Meta dislikes my use case, as I’m basically a data miner. I have a profile that I haven’t contributed to in probably 5 years or so, I don’t post or upload. I was going to delete my account around the time I moved over here to Lemmy, but I started posting to the Superbowl community as it was fizzling out already. I shared what handful of photos I had, but I soon ran out.

I started getting stuff from various sources like Flickr and eBird and the news, but I started getting really interested in wildlife rehab. As charities, Facebook is still the way to go to promote charities since it’s free, widespread, and easy and quick to use. When every penny, second, and view counts, what beats Facebook for that?

Now my feed is basically nothing but animal rescues and wildlife photographers (and increasingly AI) and I curate (steal) the good stuff and bring it to you all here without Zuckerberg getting his mitts on your data and the original source still gets all the credit.

Doing that and seeing the positive stories lead me to volunteering at my local rehab this year and it’s been lifechanging. So there is still some good that can be taken from it if one puts in the effort, but you still shouldn’t because it’s Meta and they’ve got the ick. So let me do it for you. I’ve already taken the hit and shared enough stuff, so now I’m going to siphon their stuff like they want to do to us, but I do it to promote wildlife rescue.

It’s not like any of the rescues particularly love Facebook that I’m aware of, they just want people to exist and know they need volunteers and money. Photographers want to promote their work or sell prints or their guided tours. I pass all that info along to you guys so you can find them on whatever platform you want. It’s not like I want to take any credit for it, I want you guys to support them, but if you guys won’t touch Facebook, they lose out. But I’ve dedicated hundreds of dollars and 100+ hours this year because of my sharing content, one or 2 of my subs have become volunteers, and hopefully a handful of others have kicked in something to their local rescues.

So Facebook can still provide some stuff, at the cost of privacy, but if I can extract the good and leave the bad behind for my 5000 subs, I feel that’s me doing something good.

Most likely YouTube, Lemmy, and Facebook. After that is assorted pirate streaming sites and whatever Tachiyomi sources I have. I give a little education and entertainment, I take a little education and entertainment…

I love brewery wash for my water bottle! Soap or bleach always seemed to give me a funny taste or order. It may have been in my head, but I didn’t like it and it led me to cleaning it less often.

Decided to hit it with StarSan one time it got icky and cleaned it right up with no taste or smell.

I try to run it through the dishwasher more often, but if I put something odd in the bottle or it sat out for a long time, now I StarSan it.

From looking up more usage, as it isn’t a word I often hear, it seems by nature to be neutral, but context can direct it to be more positive or negative.

If I heard someone say it in conversation, it would put a lot of emphasis on the tone of the conversation to take the meaning. I’d imagine it being used more sarcastically, as it sounds like a fancy word for someone with shallow knowledge of a subject.

“John won’t shut up about that trendy new art exhibit.”

“Oh yeah, he’s a real dilettante all of a sudden!” 😒

John had never shown interest in art before, but now that he saw it and either liked it or pretended to like it to show off his “higher appreciation of culture” than his friends now he keeps talking about it even though he doesn’t know anything about art.

I wouldn’t say it’s impossible to use in a positive manner, but being dismissive feels more likely. If someone used it that way I’d feel I was potentially missing out on a joke at first.

I think you nailed this one. Poser was my first thought, but a poser is someone who fakes an interest to fit in. Dilettante has that gatekeeping aspect to it, which seems important to OP’s description.

Probably 70% home, 25% takeaway, and 5% eating out.

Takeaway and going out used to be switched, but the gf’s been pulling a lot of OT at the hospital this year, so it’s hard for us to get together most days, and sometimes she doesn’t know when she’ll get home so it’s easier for her to grab something for herself or us on the way home.

I prefer cooking at home because it’s cheaper, potentially healthier, and I hate all the trash generated from takeout, but it’s hard for me to meal plan when our schedules are so off from each other.

We do still make all our breakfasts and lunches, so it’s mainly just dinner that’s the question.

Unfortunately I spent more time watching him for anatomy lessons than taking his fitness advice! 😂

Guy seems very legit, gives away so much help and info for free, good sense of humor. I love seeing the internals of movement on the skeleton, especially things like impingement, and then the demos with his body or an assistant so you see what you’d see watching yourself do movements. I’m glad to see he’s still doing his thing.

I always enjoy your support!

Yeah, it may be more than coincidence since it started this year. I try not to worry about things beyond my control, but it’s been hard to look anywhere lately and not see something dark.

I’ve had to learn how to deal with things in healthy ways since “getting better” and this may just be the hardest situation I’ve come on since then.

Some of my stressors should be going away soon, and I have a few vacations coming so perhaps relief is near.

You’ve got the idea!

I’ve always liked the way the Athlean-x channel demonstrates anatomy and solutions with both a static model and his more average bodied assistant. He doesn’t dumb things down, but still explains and demonstrates them in a way where you feel you understand, even if you can’t grasp all the fancy vocabulary.

He has this video on scapular winging, and a bunch more about basic posture correction exercises which may help you.

Before I was diagnosed, I tried the Zoloft my brother wasn’t taking, and that kinda put me in a numb cloud. I dealt with things better but it smashed down the good stuff too much so I gave up on that.

Tried a girlfriend’s free sample pack of something that wasn’t working for her, and that worked pretty well. Just leveled me out. It was harder for me to get frustrated and angry, and I just had a better baseline feeling. That was fairly early internet, so we had no clue what the pills were, so when they were gone, they were gone.

I don’t know how much any of that would have helped because I was still around my family, which was the prime source of my depression.

About 9 years ago, I hit a low point in life and decided to deal with this in an appropriate manner after realizing I’ve had depression for about 20+ years. Doc gave me Lexapro and said it would take 2 weeks or so to kick in.

I swear the next day I felt like a new person. The doctor said it doesn’t work that way, but I felt what I felt. Maybe I was just bone dry on serotonin and just a little bit was a shock to the system, who knows.

It didn’t make anything better, I want to be very clear on that. Before the pills, my insides were like a sponge. Anything that happened to me would soak in and get held onto. Bad stuff from my past, my own self esteem issues, any perceived slight someone gave me, whatever, it was all soak into my head and stay there until I blew up or panic attacked, etc.

What happened with medicine is now like I had an emotional raincoat. Most of that stuff would still hit me, but it would run off instead of soak in. The intrusive thoughts were there, my stressors were still there. But I could deal with them as they came up. I wasn’t still trying to get out from under a pile of them every time another hit me.

I could still get sad or depressed for no reason, but it felt like something I could handle instead of that being the only thing I could be. And that got better with time.

This year, I’ve been having problems again so I’m going to need to check in soon to discuss if I need to change something. I’ve been feeling slightly depression more often, I’m low on energy, and I’m losing interest in a lot of things I enjoy. There’s no real new stressors I’m aware of, so I’m not sure what’s going on.

I feel I’ve had a luckier time than many with medication, but even so, it isn’t a silver bullet, it’s still a chronic condition. Working meds just get you to the same starting line as “normal people” for you to deal with your day. You’re still running the same obstacle course every day, but you’re not starting way behind. Hope that was some help.

Them being compliant is a defensive behavior called freezing. If they get hurt fighting you, they won’t be able to escape, so they’re waiting to see what you are going to do before they decide if fighting is worth the risk.