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Cake day: June 22nd, 2024

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  • On top of the weight gain, my hair is turning gray and receding, and I’m growing large quantities of unsightly hair everywhere else.

    Hair growing in unwanted places can just be shaved off. Laser removal might be an option, too.

    Receding hairlines are pretty much preventable these days, the earlier you start the better (I learned about that a few years too late). If you care enough to do something about it, start with Finasteride ASAP. If you want to do more, add Minoxidil. If you want to do even more, treat the hair issue as a skin issue and act accordingly, i.e. read up on anti aging skincare and apply that to your scalp (spoiler: sunscreen is king, everything else is detail optimization).

    About the graying: That is not necessarily bad, gray hair worn with confidence can be very attractive.




  • Thank you for sharing your perspective. Let me first reiterate that none of what I wrote was intended as shaming or attacking people who do not like partying.

    I strongly disagree with “Seems like I’m the issue”. Seems to me more like you have very good reasons to dislike all parties you could realistically attend currently, and to generalize from that to not liking parties in general is only natural.

    I did not want to convince anyone they are wrong; just to share my perspective that not all parties are the same, and they can be fun even for people who think they don’t like them in general if done right.


  • If you don’t like partying, either you just don’t like people and music (which is fine, no shaming intended), or you have only ever been to bad parties.

    A good party has:

    • people who like each other and are all there to enjoy each others company (and they don’t need an excuse like watching sports to do that)
    • good music
    • a space where you can dance if you feel like it
    • a space where the music is silent enough to have interesting conversations
    • maybe a motto and costumes, some made with minimal effort, some self-made as an outlet for creative energy, maybe even some superficial roleplaying to go along with it
    • maybe some other activity you can do together like table football or table tennis or twister or …