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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • I reckon it’s probably to do with internally trying to downregulate the smile so it doesn’t look really weird or crazy or fake or stupid and you just overcompensate. You don’t know what you look like while you’re doing it and that information void gives rise to some self consciousness and pre-emptive embarrassment. Natural smiles don’t require you to think about how to do it at all so most people don’t really know how to smile in a socially acceptable way on demand with a few seconds notice. Some people are better at it than others, maybe they have a better intuition, maybe they have a better awareness of what muscle movements correspond to what changes on their face and also a really good grasp of which tiny subtleties lead to a photogenic smile or the grimace of a maniacal murderer. Actors are probably pretty good at it either through intuition or just a lot of practice. I should imagine you could train yourself to be better at it, but it’d feel weird and vain to spend your time doing that so a lot of us just make weirdly flat or stern faces in photos.

    If you can actually just enjoy the moment so it makes you smile as a result it’d probably get better results but that idea leads to its whole own self reflexive internal monologue trying to concentrate and force yourself to be happy that probably results in a frown while you summon that concentration.






  • So this will obviously be personal, as you said maybe you just want validation for something you’d do anyway, but on the face of it without having access to the emotional and self fulfilment aspects of each proposition, leaving sounds like a really bad idea.

    Leaving for higher pay, leaving for a new lifestyle and adventure in a new location, leaving for work you’d never have considered but will be really unusual and interesting or leaving for lower lay and insecurity but in a field you’ve always wanted to be involved and is worth more to you than the money and security; sure that all makes sense but unless I’m mistaken this sounds as though the other job is just a different job not one that holds a special appeal to you.

    So unless there’s some extra psychological component to this, I can’t really see the advantage.