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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • I’ll upvote, seems genuine and I don’t want to discourage that. I understand it’s difficult to find someone to talk to who wants to hear what you have to say. Even I don’t share things with my friends cuz I feel like I’m “dumping on them”. I saw a therapist twice a month and that was nice, but it was just too expensive to maintain.

    Your last sentence is what stood out to me. It’s such a harsh finality but there’s no possible way you could have tried talking to every human to KNOW none of them want to hear you talk. I know it’s extreme. I know it feels true right now. But there is no substitute for genuine human connection. Use the AI, just be careful you don’t become dependent on it. And don’t think it can be a long-term substitute.







  • I love music. It makes everything better and you can just put it on in the background. “House/EDM” music is my jam, but I love how many weird niche genres there are. Like Japanese City Pop, and then Future Funk, which is just remixed City Pop lol. Electro Swing is a genre I’ve been getting into lately. I’ll listen to anything but the hardest of dubstep. Twinsick, Gabriel & Dresden, Two Friends, all artists I listen to quite a bit. Although The Drums might be my favorite non-house/edm artist to listen to.

    How about you? Are you a lover of music too or were you just curious?



  • I mean, that kinda sounds like whataboutism. The other person was talking about maga specifically and you said “people from…all walks of life do this”

    But I think nuanced conversation is so much work. It takes so much energy and patience and attention and people just don’t have those things anymore.

    edit just realized in this micro example that you were trying to speak in broad terms, and they were trying to be specific. So even tho you were trying to talk about the same idea, your scales were different. Now you have to spend time addressing this discrepancy instead of what you actually want to talk about.





  • If you made it clear you do not like new things I don’t know why your spouse thought this would be different. And then on top of it to need to leave the house to cool off (which that itself is fine, but feeling so strongly about it isn’t imo) something feels off.

    If I knew my partner didn’t like new stuff, and I got her new stuff anyway, I wouldn’t take it personally and get very upset about it. Did you talk to your spouse about it yet? Clearly there’s a disconnect somewhere but you did nothing wrong by saying you want to return it. Hell, it’s not like you returned it already and used that money to buy something else. Or pretended to like it but return it in secret. You’re being very open and honest and communicative about your feelings which is good.

    Idk, feels like a pretty big overreaction on your spouses part that warrants a conversation.







  • I feel this way too. And have a similar history of other types of drugs used. Not that I chose to stop doing them tho but really lost access (plug stopped plugging).

    My partner is concerned about the smoke in my lungs, which is a fair point. So I do mostly edibles, only weed these days. I still have a couple pre-rolls on hand in case a friend stops over or I don’t wanna wait 2 hours for the gummies to hit.

    I can stop long enough to pass a drug test, I have a stable job, I own a house, have a partner of 8 years now (wow) so I wouldn’t consider myself a “failure” or a “junkie” or anything like that.

    Being high is just better imo. I feel better, I smile more, I worry less. The only downside is if i go spaceman and my partner wants to have a serious talk she’s just SoL for a few hours but all in all I don’t think I’ll ever stop and tbh I don’t really want to.