I’ve noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something. There’s like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental. It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?

  • velma@sh.itjust.works
    73·
    2 months ago

    Again, it’s not just one user here and there. It’s constant. So yes, the admins work hard on banning them, but there’s so many here on Lemmy that are unwilling to respect women.

    • Dave@lemmy.nz
      3·
      2 months ago

      I am honestly not surprised. But I’d guess this is a problem in public women spaces on other platforms too. The internet in general has kinda always been notorious for not being friendly to women.

      Not really sure what the solution is. Realistically IRL isn’t that women-friendly either 🤷

      • dkppunk@piefed.socialEnglish
        72·
        2 months ago

        This is why I said in my comment that I wish more guys would call out their fellow men’s misogyny more instead of relying on others to correct them. It would be a step in the right direction.

        Not saying this is you at all, but it would nice to not have guys arguing and crying misandry/sexism when they are politely asked to leave a space specifically made for women and femme adjacent folks. Maybe if more guys pushed back, women would feel more welcome.

        • velma@sh.itjust.works
          53·
          2 months ago

          crying misandry/sexism when they are politely asked to leave a space specifically made for women and femme adjacent folks.

          The sigh that emanates from me when I see this reply over and over again is both deep and tired.

          • dkppunk@piefed.socialEnglish
            51·
            2 months ago

            I have so many misogynist cries misandry tags out there that it’s pretty crazy. I just tag folks instead of blocking since this is still such a small space, that way I can read their comments/posts but otherwise not engage with them.

            The worst of the worst I’ve seen here hasn’t been active in over two weeks thank goodness. Hopefully he got told he’s an ass by enough people other than me that he left.

        • Dave@lemmy.nz
          2·
          2 months ago

          You mean in general, not in c/WomenStuff? I don’t think I’d feel comfortable posting there even if it was to push back on misogyny.

          • dkppunk@piefed.socialEnglish
            31·
            2 months ago

            Yeah, I meant in general. I’ve seen quite a few times instances of it outside of womensstuff and not many people call them out except for folks like me and velma. I’d never expect a guy to do that there.

      • velma@sh.itjust.works
        53·
        2 months ago

        I know the solution isn’t giving up and allowing men to say these things out loud with absolutely no push back, so I’m rather prepared to be unpopular on Lemmy hahah