I’m a healthy outdoorsy athletic woman, never touched drugs or alcohol or junk food, a lifestyle which is intentional & ESSENTIAL criteria I work hard for.

So WHY the only men who approach me with amorous intentions are unhealthy, cigarette, alcohol, junk food men??

Update: Thank you for your thoughtful responses & the humorous ones too. I upvoted my favorites & laughed at the funnies and you’ve given me plenty to think about & work on.

  • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    10 days ago

    ok, so you need to work your way through rejection anxiety …

    If you talk to someone you like, and they seem to be enjoying the conversation too, if you say “would you like to for dinner sometime?” what is the worst thing that could happen?

    If they say no in a rude way, would they be the sort of person you wanted to be with anyway? Of course not (unless you have a fetish for that sort of thing)

    If they say no politely, woild you want to be with someone who isn’t into you? No, that’s the route to a broken heart.

    At that point, you know that more effort would have been wasted, and you can try again with someone else.

    But maybe, just maybe, they’ll say yes. It’s worth the risk.

    This assumes that you’ve gone to a bit if effort to make yourself appealing and approachable. ie. you make make some effort over your appearance, and do not look threatening.