I personally live by the idea that at home if someone/some people keep(s) constantly complaining about your work, then they should try to do a better job than you to prove you aren’t putting in the work. I feel as long as you are doing a good job, they will probably do worse and hopefully back off afterwards. That’s assuming they don’t claim that they either did better than you or blame you on a job not well done despite them doing it.

As for me, my standard is getting it done right the first time so I don’t have to redo it. Dishes get cleaned right and put away in specific cabinets and drawers so everyone knows roughly where everything is and I don’t have to fix things when putting dishes away or struggle to find things when helping cook dinner. Same type of logic applies to helping my parents and when walking my brothers dogs. Though, I’m lucky enough to have family that doesn’t get too snippity over my work. Usually just a dish that I may have missed a little bit on being pointed out every once in a while.