Wasn’t my choice to end it, but working out did help, the physical discomfort dulls the emotional pain. Although I did it at home rather than going to a gym. Years later I’m still more in shape than I was before that episode.
I chose to go to the other side of the continent and back, with my faithful furball by my side. (Took nearly a year) Now, we’re putting down roots in a far better city, thousands of miles and innumerable degrees of separation from her crazy ass. Winning. Tough AF, but finally winning, I think. 🥲
I hope everything works out for you, and I’m positive you’ll be okay.
Going to the gym is way easier than the infinite treadmill of trying to fix relationship which was never going to work. Having a stronger body helps to deal with the physical symptoms of trauma too. It can build confidence because working hard in the gym yields rewards but working too hard backfires. You have to listen to your own body and your own feelings rather than have them dictated to you by a toxic partner, or it won’t work.
It is easy for some but unfortunately I feel like for some people they end up finally pushing themself to go to the gym because of a break up. But I’d agree the gym helps a lot. And you are surrounded by other people who are there to better themselves by working out.
Ran on a treadmill a couple of times, but then lost steam. Drank and spent time with strippers instead. Still wound up meeting and falling in love with the kindest and most beautiful girl I’ve ever been with, and now I don’t feel the need for the liquor and loose women anymore.
“Hit the gym” is a lie that Big Gym tells you so you’ll get stuck in an un-cancellable subscription. /s
It doesn’t surprise me that marketers figured out that people going through a break up is an audience to profit from.
I actually only have motivation to workout hard when I’m in a relationship and happy
I suppose it’s down to each person and what they feel will work best for themselves, personally I’ve gone back to the gym after two years because of multiple events (including me having to end a toxic relationship) and I found that channeling any anger along with all them feelings that are picking away at your mind into Woking out, really does give you a boost and for me has 100% helped me feel better and is helping me recover from what in my opinion put me into a very dark place in my mind.
