Long story short. Friend with history is body and mental issues (mainly depression). I moved to a different country, so we talked less. For the past two year things went very one sided. I would text her and get reply much later. Never able to meet when I was in town.

Then, nothing. No answers at all. Text or calls. Friends tell me similar story. I keep texting sporadically, sometimes calling. After months I get a response. She’s crying and saying shes sorry for not replying, that’s she’s not well in general and needs time. Problems with work, relationships, family and some tragedies all in short time.

That was months ago. Part of me thinks to give space, but another is worried because she’s avoiding our common friends too. The only way to reach to her or even know how she is would be through her family, which is very intrusive.

Any advice?

Edit: fixed “In moved to a different country” to “I moved to a different country” as somebody misunderstood due to the typo

  • brucethemoose@lemmy.world
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    7 hours ago

    Speaking as one of those “I self isolated and stop responding to friends” folks years later:

    Definitely reach out. Emphasize not to worry about the ghosting; I guarantee she’s literally worried sick over it. Do it, even if you have to do it through family. They’ll all be glad.