I made a similar post a couple of years ago, but I think it’s time again after seeing a few nice-guy/incel posts here. So, guys who have made it to the other side, what would you say to your previous self? I’ll leave my own personal answer in a comment below.

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        8 hours ago

        Rather then work out and make money, I would rather say have fun, do something interesting and stay healthy.

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        10 hours ago

        does an answer here even matter? Whatever I place the blame of my situation on will not magically fix it.

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          10 hours ago

          That’s true. Or at least, it won’t directly. There are other people in the thread that had better luck as soon as they changed their attitude a bit, but I don’t know your situation and can’t guarantee anything.

          It’s more a question of if you’ve actually left the movement, or actually were in it in the first place. It’s called “incel”, but it’s specifically about blaming women for said celibacy. And it makes a world of difference to other people if you blame them, or maybe even wish them harm.

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            Nah, I saw a contra points vid on incels, it was a bit of empathy that veered me away from that movement, even thought I really didn’t go deep in it in the first place.

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              9 hours ago

              Link, for anyone else curious. I’m actually learning some things.

              Empathy is good, I’m glad you found it. And I hope you “ascend” (one of the things I learnt), because few people can’t.