He’s 48, the girl is 17. Yes, their relationship is legal here; legality is not the point, but morality and ethics - I don’t think it’s okay. They’ve been dating for a few months now. I only found out about it recently when he started bringing her home to spend the night (I’m 19 and live with him). Dad’s been widowed since 2023. Her parents know and support this relationship - heard it straight from their mouth when they came to visit. My family believes the girl is a gold digger so she’s the one in the wrong. My dad and I are very close, he’s always been an amazing dad, supports me in every way a person can be supported… I’m queer and being queer in Romania isn’t well received to say the least, but he’s always had my back and I feel safe because of him. Now for him to go and do something like this… I talked to both him and the girl, he says it’s just something that happened (he didn’t go looking for it); she says she loves being spoilt and how “chill” my dad is (she characterized the relationship as a cold day in bed under the warm covers). I don’t really know what I’m looking to hear honestly, but I want to talk about it.
Try to see things from his perspective.
He’s old and probably won’t get a chance like this again. If he didn’t take it, he could end up regretting it for the rest of his life.
He’s his own man. He wasn’t put here to meet your expectations. Since you’re 19, he’s likely already done his job of raising you.
I used to be sympathetic for the young ladies getting involved with older men, but experience has taught me that most of them are well aware of the implications and choose to go along with it anyways.
the chance to be a pedophile?