I’d like to start an instance about “bragging”. It’d be an instance to celebrate small wins. Like “I did a thing I’ve been dreading!” I’m almost positive I have ADHD despite that my mother never bothered to have me checked because fuck me, im just a problem right? Well I’d like to set up an instance for people to kind of celebrate doing the things that we absolutely hate doing. “I got my house refinanced and saved $40 a month!” Awesome! I bet that took a lot of effort! Good on you doing the thing!

My doctor said if I have ADHD, that it’s not bad enough to do anything about. And I’ve heard stories of others getting the same thing. So it would be more of a positive support group for people who struggle with those types of things. Like, when I get happy about doing/finishing something mundane, people are like “uh …cool” cause they don’t get the struggle of doing something so mundane. It’s so much of a struggle that others don’t understand. So when you struggle with this kind of thing, saying “I cleaned the bathroom” gets a response like “that sucks” but that was a win for this person. I want a place for people to brag about knocking things off their never-ending list, to celebrate the win, even if it’s nothing to others.

So my question is how do I do this? How do I make a new instance?

Edit: just to stave off the main communication issue, I meant community, not Instance. If anyone has voyager and has done it can help, that’d be great. And I appreciate all help, both previous to the edit and after. Thank you all for the much more supportive place than reddit.

  • haui@lemmy.giftedmc.com
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    1 day ago

    I sympathize. Taxes suck even where I live and I know of places where this stuff gets a lot worse. Fundamentally, taxes only suck because someone wants them to suck. If you look at !anticorporate@lemmy.giftedmc.com you might see a pattern.

    But back to your topic: I think “personalwins” or something would work. if you want it to be easy to find for the mainstream, you can look up the likely name on reddit and then search for or make such a community here. Why reddit? You might ask. It’s easy. Lemmy has A LOT of ex redditors and more are flocking in and the more familiar at least some stuff is, the easier the onboarding. just thinking ahead here. It will also make people find your comm easier.

    Voyager should have a new community button somewhere although I dont know how world handles the making of a new comm. Maybe someone can answer that. Also, voyager has its own community where you can ask about tipps and tricks.

    And in terms of mental health again: I still suggest a place where you can rant and not get shunned for it. It’s worth a lot. There is an autism community with a matrix chat which is nice (no need to tell me you do or dont have it, its just an example) but the question is if there is a chat for adhd folks. I think there is but not sure. Feel free to check out the community.

    Good luck

    • P00ptart@lemmy.worldOP
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      1 day ago

      Hey thanks for that. I appreciate the additional tips.

      You’re right that it would be easier to name it in a way that reddit already has a sub, so that there’s a way to snipe searchers.

      I agree a rant page would also be worthwhile, as I basically already used it without it being there. That would actually be a really fun community if moderated properly. Honestly, that’s a great idea for everyone. If I can get this specific comm going reasonably well, I’d love to make or be part of a ranting page with no judgement, just a place to vent.