To this day, she remembers the racing thoughts, the instant nausea, the hairs prickling up on her legs, the sweaty palms. She had shared a photograph of herself in her underwear with a boy she trusted and, very soon, it had been sent around the school and across her small home town, Aberystwyth, Wales. She became a local celebrity for all the wrong reasons. Younger kids would approach her laughing and ask for a hug. Members of the men’s football team saw it – and one showed someone who knew Davies’s nan, so that’s how her family found out.

Her book, No One Wants to See Your D*ck, takes a deep dive into the negatives. It covers Davies’s experiences in the digital world – that includes cyberflashing such as all those unsolicited dick pics – as well as the widespread use of her images on pornography sites, escort services, dating apps, sex chats (“Ready for Rape? Role play now!” with her picture alongside it). However, the book also shines a light on the dark online men’s spaces, what they’re saying, the “games” they’re playing. “I wanted to show the reality of what men are doing,” says Davies. “People will say: ‘It’s not all men’ and no, it isn’t, but it also isn’t a small number of weirdos on the dark web in their mum’s basements. These are forums with millions of members on mainstream sites such as Reddit, Discord and 4chan. These are men writing about their wives, their mums, their mate’s daughter, exchanging images, sharing women’s names, socials and contact details, and no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.”

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    1 day ago

    “Oh, I’m spreading rhetoric that hurts people? Why are you even responding to it, then?”

    That’s not really a fair characterisation of the situation given that they said elsewhere:

    “Later dude. This isn’t going to be productive.”

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      23 hours ago

      Look, I wanted to come back and apologize. We are clearly ganging up on you a little bit here and this has gotten kind of nasty. I’m sorry for my part in it, and I don’t like being a bully/contributing to negativity online. Yet I did, and I own that.

      I seriously, honestly insist that you take a look at what we were talking about earlier and really assess the discussion critically. I imagine you mean well, but thereare some seriously troubling implications with your rhetoric and the way you are talking about these subjects. You don’t have to agree with us, but I think if you take a step back and just give it some thought you might see at least some small thing worth addressing or reconsidering. Have a good one, sorry again

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      If you believe that hateful, harmful ideas shouldn’t be challenged and should be allowed to stand on their own as long as the person spewing them is sufficienly annoying, sure, mate. Unfair characterization.

      Or maybe you just said even dumber shit in response and they changed their mind. Even the brightest among us may never know. Truly confounding.

      You have now retreated to “but they promised they would stop talking,” btw. Just keeping you aware of the scoreboard here, so to speak.

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        24 hours ago

        If you believe that hateful, harmful ideas shouldn’t be challenged

        I don’t see any challenging, just flailing.

        scoreboard

        Oh dear.