I need some third-party opinions. I’m a Swiss guy currently in Cambodia. I came here on holiday and met a girl at a restaurant in Siem Reap. We talked for a bit and she offered to show me around the area. We hung out together for a week, during which we also hooked up. It was a great week. Then she invited me to stay with her at her family’s house. I accepted because I thought, why not? I’ve been here for three weeks now and had my visa extended by 30 days. I work remotely, so I’m able to support myself financially. My parents hate me being here because they think I’m being taken advantage of financially. For example, they were upset when I told them I bought some things for the house to make my stay more comfortable. Personally, I don’t feel like I’m being taken advantage of.
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ahh. that’s a good bit more than someone would buy for a hostel stay, and probably more than someone would buy for a friend, too.
just be sure that you’re clearly communicating your intentions & letting everyone know that while you didn’t mind spending that money, you also don’t intend to move in & stay longer, despite your new purchases maybe indicating otherwise.
Is it tho? If i would see that list from a millionaire for their summer vacation in southern france i would say that sounds modest. I guess a hotel in the capital with room service and regular sex worker visits would be more expensive.
Enjoy your time and your new love op.
the average person wouldn’t buy a new bed/mattress/wardrobe for a hostel (or even a hotel) they were staying in for a few weeks, no. buying larger furniture items like that would generally indicate to a family that OP might intend to stay longer than a few weeks.
it’s not really about the cost, but about making sure that everyone’s communicating their plans/return dates/expectations, so no one’s in for an unpleasant surprise when OP heads home.
overcommunication will at worst result in a “we know, you’ve told us all before”, while undercommunication could result in “i assumed you’d changed your mind about leaving, after you bought so many things for the house”
The average person would absolutely pay for a room that has a clean mattress a wardrobe and fast excess to a coffee machine.
I agree with the clear communication.
I’ve never met anyone who would buy a bed and mattress for a month
I never met anyone who would stay at the locals house in a 3rd world country instead of a hotel. The average person rents that stuff for a month.
Would you do that for a girl back home with whom you had a random hookup but no serious intentions?
If “no” then then you’re probably leading them on thinking you’re getting married.
If anything, you’re taking advantage of them, living in their house and sleeping with their daughter.
Came here to say this. If you aren’t planning to stay, you need to be very clear with this girl about your intentions…otherwise it’s you who is misleading them.
I mean seriously brother. Moving into her family’s home after sleeping together? Buying furniture? What message do you think that sends?
^^^Ding ding ding!
Yup definitely in line for their daughters hand in marriage
So she has won that special kind of lottery.
Maybe OP has won too
lol - yeah, that’s a little overboard.
May I ask how much that cost you? You say things are cheap there so if it’s in the range of what you would have otherwise paid for a hotel or for your general cost of living at home, it sounds more like a mutually beneficial situation. You get to extend your vacation for relatively cheap and they get to keep what you’ve bought when you leave.
Just make sure to keep an eye on the situation. People can get used to your generosity and you don’t know how their disappointment will manifest when you eventually decide to leave. They might just be grateful for what you gave them, but they might also ask you to stay for longer than you’re comfortable with, they might ask you to buy them more stuff before you leave or they might ask you to take the girl home with you. Not even out of greed or any bad feelings but just because what you gave them feels nice and wanting more of that is just natural.
As long as you set limits for yourself (important edit: and communicate those limits) and are prepared to leave within the hour if they don’t respect those, I see no harm. Best case, you have made new friends that you stay in contact with and can visit some time in the future. Worst case you have to leave in the middle of the night and never see them again.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2_r4q2imnQ
You, my friend, are cooked.